Good Advice

Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing must be attained.
--Marie Curie Polish-French chemist

Confidence is a habit that can be developed by acting as if you already had the confidence you desire to have.
--Brian Tracy

Your self-confidence is directly connected to how much you feel you are making a difference in your world.
--Brian Tracy


Celebrate Each and Every Success

A key to overcoming anxiety or whatever is getting in your path to more progress is to celebrate your successes. Small successes form the foundation of greater successes and happiness. Celebrate them!

Think of your 'inner power' as a muscle just like any other muscle. The more you use it, the more toned it becomes and the more you are able to accomplish. Every time you practice a healthy life strategy, you actually increase your ability to conquer your anxiety. What you couldnÌt do yesterday, you can do today. With practice, your new skills will become automatic. The more you practice healthy life strategies, the more you are able to prevent false alarms that set off your fight or flight response and result in anxiety.

With continued practice and a commitment to changing for the better, you will continue to become more skilled in conquering your anxiety and creating the life you want. Remember, any positive change is a reason to celebrate!


Book List for Success
Through Assertiveness

The Power of Positive Confrontation: The Skills You Need to Know to Handle Conflicts at Work, at Home, and in Life by Barbara Pachter

Civilized Assertiveness for Women: Communication with Backbone...not Bite by Judith Selee, Ph.D. McClure

The Assertive Woman (Personal Growth) by Stanlee Phelps

30 Minutes to Self-Confidence + How to Be Assertive...and Well Liked! (Super Strength) by Bob Griswold

The Assertive Option: Your Rights and Responsibilities by Patricia Jakubowski


New Friends
Magnet Too

A famous actor once said in a commercial: "Self-confidence is very sexy, don't you think?" Of course, he was right.

When you've met someone and felt drawn to what you might call their magnetism, haven't they always projected a sense of self-confidence? They were magnetic because of a strong self image and were anything but passive.Such magnetism is the very thing that makes some, if not most, people popular. They have lots of friends because their confidence is attractive, even sexy, and draws people to them. Passive people seldom project that same kind of magnetism.

What can you do if you want to make more new friends? Be more self-confident, show people you like yourself and have a good self image. How? One way is being warm and open when you meet someone and looking them in the eyes.That sounds so simple, but many people do the opposite. They seem cold and their eyes look away because they lack self-esteem.

Interestingly, all of the above is true for someone making a speech: you want to project warmth and openness as you approach the speaking platform and look out at your audience. Passivity screams weak self image, unsure of yourself.

Also, every good speaker looks the audience in the eyes, one by one if in a small crowd, but even in a larger group the best speakers connect with their eyes, as well as their voices, thus projecting warmth and self-confidence.

That is not only successful, but also sexy, whether you want an audience of 1 or 100 to like and accept you.


Books on Assertiveness