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Good Advice


Every act of conscious learning requires the willingness to suffer an injury to one's self-esteem. That is why young children, before they are aware of their own self-importance, learn so easily.
Thomas Szasz

Outstanding leaders go out of their way to boost the self-esteem of their personnel. If people believe in themselves, it's amazing what they can accomplish.
Sam Walton

No one else can take risks for us, or face our losses on our behalf, or give us self-esteem. No one can spare us from life's slings and arrows, and when death comes, we meet it alone.
Martha Beck

Quotes on Self-Confidence


No one is perfect... that's why pencils have erasers. ~Author Unknown

A man would do nothing if he waited until he could do it so well that no one could find fault. ~John Henry Newman

Once you accept the fact that you're not perfect, then you develop some confidence. ~Rosalyn Carter


There are no perfect men in this world, only perfect intentions. ~Pen Densham, Robin Hood: Prince of Thieves


The imperfections of a man, his frailties, his faults, are just as important as his virtues. You can't separate them. They're wedded. ~Henry Miller

"Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently." - Henry Ford

"Try not to become a man of success but rather try to become a man of value." - Albert Einstein

Fear is static that prevents me from hearing my intuition. - Hugh Prather

Good Advice


I can't understand why people are frightened of new ideas. I'm frightened of the old ones.

- John Cage

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The best way to have a good idea is to have lots of ideas.
- Linus Pauling

It is not enough to know how to ride. You must also know how to fall.
- Mexican Proverb

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There's nothing in the middle of the road but yellow stripes and dead armadillos
- Jim Hightower

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Do not confuse motion and progress. A rocking horse keeps moving but does not make any progress.
- Alfred A. Montapert

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Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising which tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to the end, requires some of the same courage which a soldier needs.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Tips To Improve Your Self-Confidence

by: Thomas Bekkar

Self-confidence is an important key to success in any walk of life. People with self-confidence are noticed more. They achieve their goals relatively easily. In contrast, people who lack self-confidence often end up being losers. You need to build your self-confidence if you want to do well in life.

Here are tips that can help you build that sometimes elusive self-confidence:

1. Self-confidence is found in people who have a healthy self-esteem. They know their personal worth, and act accordingly. A good way to improve your personal worth is to make a list of your accomplishments every day. You will be surprised to know how many positive acts you perform every day in life, but which you don't notice. Once you start looking at this list, your self-confidence will boom.

2. Be clear about your goals. If need be, break your goals into smaller, more manageable tasks. Pat yourself every time you achieve a minor goal. It will boost your self-confidence and help you achieve bigger goals.

3. Find a mentor who can help you reach your goals. Most people, who have done well in life, have a mentor who has traveled the same road on which they are traveling today. Meet your mentor regularly and seek advice and support as a routine. You will find that you are learning something valuable every day.

4. Socialize with people who are positive and supportive, who like and respect you. Give them the same support and respect that they give you. Avoid people who are negative and critical of you. Such people erode your self-confidence. They make you look at your negative self, and not your positive self. After some time, you get enveloped in their cynical and negative world-view. Nothing can be more damaging than that. Dump such friends as soon as you can.

5. Don't be afraid of failures. Take them in your stride and move on. Say to yourself that you will succeed the next time. Never make the mistake of allowing your failures to overwhelm you. They will force you into a shell and destroy your self-confidence. A better way is to see your failures as something inconsequential, and take on a new challenge. Of course, you must learn from your mistakes and be realistic about your abilities. People who try to over-reach often fall down. You should not allow that to happen in the name of self-confidence.

6. Keep yourself fit by exercising regularly and controlling your diet. A fit and healthy person is much more active and achieves more in work. Physical fitness, like self-confidence, glows on your face.

7. Have a wide range of interests, and take an active interest in what's going on in the world. Meet and talk to a lot of people. Don't focus all your attention only on your work and on your problems. Divert your attention to new interests, and new tasks. This will keep your mind happily occupied, and boost your self-confidence.

Because no-fear public speaking and successful
assertiveness relate to
self-esteem and self-confidence,

today I am
suggesting books closely related to those topics
by two of
my favorite authors:

Gayle and Hugh Prather

Morning Notes by Hugh Prather

The Little Book of Letting Go by Hugh Prather

Shining Through by Hugh Prather

Spiritual Notes to Myself by Hugh Prather

How to Live in the World and Still Be Happy

by Hugh Prather

I Will Never Leave You by Gayle and Hugh Prather

Spiritual Parenting by Gayle and Hugh Prather

Notes to Myself by Hugh Prather

Good Advice


There is a fine line between assertiveness and being relaxed.
Justin Guarini

The basic difference between being assertive and being aggressive is how our words and behavior affect the rights and well being of others.
Sharon Anthony Bower

To establish true self-esteem we must concentrate on our successes and forget about the failures and the negatives in our lives.
Denis Waitley

Shakespeare and Self-Confidence


Shakespeare said approximately, comparisons are odious or odorus. I say both.

Yet everyone does compare themselves to others, specially friends and acquaintaces, sometimes even more foolishly, celebrities and people in the news. Stop it. You are your own unique self and you can't logically compare yourself to anyone else.

• Comparisons often are either negative self-talk to tear yourself down or inner bragging telling yourself your better than someone else.
• Neither is useful.
• Use your time better and simply appreciate what and who you are.
  
• Spend that time working to be even more than you are today, and you will find even more success pouring into your life until your "cup" starts that delicious running over.

Comparing yourself to other is a self-defeating game. When you hear that inner negative talk, immediately turn it off and start counting your successes, the very good reasons you have for being more self-confident today and having more self-esteem. You'll love how it looks on you.


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