Sunday


Books on Assertiveness







Wednesday

Assertiveness Vs. Aggressiveness


Think of assertiveness as being firm, but polite. It's a mindset that says "I want to win, but I'm not going to walk over you to do it-I'm going to respect what you want and work to help you win also."

Aggressiveness, on the other hand, is firm but impolite. The aggressive person says "I'm going to win, and I don't care if you get what you want." Milder forms are more ambivalent: "I don't care whether or not you get your needs met." Full-court press aggressiveness wants the other person to lose no matter what.

By the way, non-assertiveness is polite (considerate of other people's perspectives), but not firm-that is, unwilling to stand up for one's own needs. Non-assertive people need to understand the differences between assertiveness and aggressiveness so that when they do step forward to get their needs met they don't go overboard and step on everyone else.

Saturday


Good Advice


Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing must be attained.
--Marie Curie Polish-French chemist


Confidence is a habit that can be developed by acting as if you already had the confidence you desire to have.
--Brian Tracy


Your self-confidence is directly connected to how much you feel you are making a difference in your world.
--Brian Tracy

Monday


This photo is Lake Louise in Banff Park
in the province of Alberta in Canada.



A Note on Photos

For all who asked about getting photos,
I use free ones from
yotophoto, they're
great and
then I use

google free pic organizer


PICASA......
you can get that free

by clicking on the link at bottom
of this blog.


good luck to all
dave


and don't miss two blogs that will
help you build vital self-confidence:


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Sunday







Good Advice


I can't understand why people are frightened of new ideas. I'm frightened of the old ones.

- John Cage


The best way to have a good idea is to have lots of ideas.
- Linus Pauling

It is not enough to know how to ride. You must also know how to fall.
- Mexican Proverb





There's nothing in the middle of the road but yellow stripes and dead armadillos
- Jim Hightower


Do not confuse motion and progress. A rocking horse keeps moving but does not make any progress.
- Alfred A. Montapert



Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising which tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to the end, requires some of the same courage which a soldier needs.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Wednesday




Tips To Improve Your Self-Confidence

by: Thomas Bekkar

Self-confidence is an important key to success in any walk of life. People with self-confidence are noticed more. They achieve their goals relatively easily. In contrast, people who lack self-confidence often end up being losers. You need to build your self-confidence if you want to do well in life.

Here are tips that can help you build that sometimes elusive self-confidence:

1. Self-confidence is found in people who have a healthy self-esteem. They know their personal worth, and act accordingly. A good way to improve your personal worth is to make a list of your accomplishments every day. You will be surprised to know how many positive acts you perform every day in life, but which you don't notice. Once you start looking at this list, your self-confidence will boom.

2. Be clear about your goals. If need be, break your goals into smaller, more manageable tasks. Pat yourself every time you achieve a minor goal. It will boost your self-confidence and help you achieve bigger goals.

3. Find a mentor who can help you reach your goals. Most people, who have done well in life, have a mentor who has traveled the same road on which they are traveling today. Meet your mentor regularly and seek advice and support as a routine. You will find that you are learning something valuable every day.

4. Socialize with people who are positive and supportive, who like and respect you. Give them the same support and respect that they give you. Avoid people who are negative and critical of you. Such people erode your self-confidence. They make you look at your negative self, and not your positive self. After some time, you get enveloped in their cynical and negative world-view. Nothing can be more damaging than that. Dump such friends as soon as you can.

5. Don't be afraid of failures. Take them in your stride and move on. Say to yourself that you will succeed the next time. Never make the mistake of allowing your failures to overwhelm you. They will force you into a shell and destroy your self-confidence. A better way is to see your failures as something inconsequential, and take on a new challenge. Of course, you must learn from your mistakes and be realistic about your abilities. People who try to over-reach often fall down. You should not allow that to happen in the name of self-confidence.

6. Keep yourself fit by exercising regularly and controlling your diet. A fit and healthy person is much more active and achieves more in work. Physical fitness, like self-confidence, glows on your face.

7. Have a wide range of interests, and take an active interest in what's going on in the world. Meet and talk to a lot of people. Don't focus all your attention only on your work and on your problems. Divert your attention to new interests, and new tasks. This will keep your mind happily occupied, and boost your self-confidence.